lördag, oktober 24, 2015
From the Introduction to The Gospel of Mary of Magdala Jesus and the First Woman Apostle by Karen L. King
Early Christianity & the Gospel of Mary
måndag, oktober 19, 2015
James Hill Playing An 'Ukulele With Chopsticks And A Comb
During a sold out concert At Don Quixote's International
Music Hall in Felton, California the enthusiastic crowd
demanded an encore performance. This video was shot
on 06-05-11. to learn more about James Hill.
visit his website at http://jameshillmusic.com/
NOTHING AND IT ALL very old tune by me
NOTHING AND IT ALL by jim-bjorklund
VÄRDELÖST VETANDE, Stillbilden som är omslag i sv/v till videon är från gamla systemet då vi köade fram till dessa damer som höll reda på åldrar mm....
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onsdag, oktober 14, 2015
Borderline personality disorder is a hurtful label for real suffering
Standing in the cold, dark bathroom, she hacked into her wrist with a razor blade and quietly stared at the blood that flowed from the cut. She told herself she was a bad person and deserved the pain.
A part of her felt reassured by the sight of the blood – it showed she was alive – since she felt so dead and empty inside. As she stared at her image in the bathroom mirror, she thought, “I have no idea who that person is staring back at me.”
Such deliberate self-harm is very common in people diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. It takes many forms, including intentional overdoses of tablets with excessive alcohol, risky sexual behaviour, as well as physical self-punishment.
Other symptoms of the disorder include identity disturbances, feeling “dead” inside, rage responses or difficulty regulating emotional reactions to situations, mood swings, constant anxiety and panic, poor self-esteem, memory blanks, dissociation (“out of body" or feeling “unreal”) experiences, problems with concentration, feeling invalid, and fear of being abandoned.
A bad cycle
Between 2% to 10% of the population have some degree of borderline personality disorder, which puts them at high risk of suicide. While it’s poorly understood, we know that it predominantly impacts women.
There’s no medication that specifically treats borderline personality disorder, and it’s associated with a great deal of stigma among both health-care professionals and the general community. Research shows people seeking treatment for self-inflicted harm, including taking medication overdoses, are often seen as “difficult”, a “nuisance” or just indulging in “bad behaviour”.
Rage or diffuse anger is another symptom of borderline personality disorder that’s poorly tolerated by family and health professionals. If the person with the condition repeats self-harming behaviour, frustration among family, friends and health professionals increases and may lead to decreased care.
Since people with the disorder crave reassurance that they are worthy, valid and deserving of care, this rejection sets up a dangerous spiral of increasingly harmful behaviour that’s intended to attract care.
Origins in trauma
About 80% of people with borderline personality disorder have a history of trauma. They may block out recollections of early life trauma, but the impact of their emotional, physical or sexual abuse as a young person is profound and present for many years afterwards.
More specifically, people who were sexually abused as children often feel – wrongly – that they did something wrong, that they are to blame for being abused and that they’re bad people. At a deep level, they believe they deserve punishment; their self-harm acts out this belief.
The rage of people with borderline personality disorder, which often occurs in response to apparently small issues, may actually be a totally justified – a delayed expression of anger with the perpetrator of their abuse. And their memory blanks and out-of-body responses to stress may be attempts to repress recollections of abuse and to escape from trauma.
Not all traumas stem from physical or sexual abuse. Emotional neglect or deprivation can also be difficult for people to identify and define. They can, nonetheless, leave a mark for years to come. About 10% to 20% of people who have borderline personality disorder have no known history of childhood trauma.
Difficult diagnosis
The biology of this poorly understood condition includes the hypothesis that abused or neglected children produce high levels of stress hormones (cortisol) and remain on “high alert” – watching and waiting for the next abusive episode. These stress hormones impact brain circuits and centres that determine anger or emotional control and higher learning.
Deliberate self-harm is very common in people diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. Rachel Collins/Flickr, CC BY
Women with this condition can also have cortisol-induced cyclical reproductive changes, leading to menstrual cycle-related depression, obesity, diabetes, high blood pressure, increased facial hair, infertility and ovarian cysts. All these long-lasting mental and physical symptoms appear to have their origins in a history of early life trauma with biological brain changes.
There are effective psychological treatments, such as dialectical behavioural therapy, for borderline personality disorder but health professionals have to recognise and explain the condition before appropriate care can be provided.
And many health professionals find it difficult to recognise the condition because different symptoms come and go over time. An overall view of the person’s life is needed to correctly make the diagnosis.
Ill-fitting name
As a diagnostic term, borderline personality disorder not only fails to capture any of the underlying issues and mechanisms involved in producing its symptoms, it also denigrates. In contrast, major depressive disorder describes a serious condition with the key feature of depressed mood explicit in the diagnostic term.
The word “borderline” was used in the 1930s by psychoanalysts to describe patients whose symptoms were on the border between psychosis and neurosis. But today the most common interpretation of the word is that the condition “borders” on being a real illness.
In effect, there’s an invalidation of the illness in its name. This mirrors – as well as possibly enhancing – the feeling of invalidation the person with the condition already suffers.
And all this is not helped by the next word either. To suggest there’s something about someone’s personality that’s disordered – especially as personality is, collectively, the intimate and unique qualities that describe a person – is a devastating blow. And it cuts further into the already diminished self-esteem that people with this condition have.
Why it matters
Diagnostic labels carry a great deal of weight. They describe symptoms, attempt to answer the question of “what is wrong” and lead to a treatment plan. A diagnostic label such as borderline personality disorder with its stigma and propensity to invalidate the person’s suffering clearly has many negative impacts.
A name that captures the origins of the condition, such as complex trauma disorder, could shift the focus from seeing the person as “behaving badly” or not having a “real” illness, to recognising them as a survivor of trauma or abuse. Such a change could improve outcomes for them and their families.
Of course, what’s also urgently needed is clinical research that creates better understanding of the condition, and the development of tailored, effective treatments. But ultimately, prevention of early life trauma would make the biggest difference to the development and expression of this disorder.
In the meantime, changing the label borderline personality disorder to something more sympathetic, even if just informally, may start shifting negative attitudes to people with the condition.
Jayashri Kulkarni
Professor of Psychiatry, Monash University
http://theconversation.com/borderline-personality-disorder-is-a-hurtful-label-for-real-suffering-time-we-changed-it-41760
QUOTES FROM RUMI
Jalal ad-Din Muhammad Balkhi, also known as Rumi, was a 13th-century Persian poet, jurist, theologian, and Sufi mystic.
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“Study me as much as you like, you will not know me, for I differ in a hundred ways from what you see me to be. Put yourself behind my eyes and see me as I see myself, for I have chosen to dwell in a place you cannot see.”
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“You were born with potential. You were born with goodness and trust. You were born with ideals and dreams. You were born with greatness. You were born with wings. You are not meant for crawling, so don’t. You have wings. Learn to use them and fly.”
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“You sit here for days saying, This is strange business. You’re the strange business. You have the energy of the sun in you, but you keep knotting it up at the base of your spine. You’re some weird kind of gold that wants to stay melted in the furnace, so you won’t have to become coins.”
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“Why should I stay at the bottom of a well when a strong rope is in my hand?”
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“Become the sky. Take an axe to the prison wall. Escape.”
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“Do you know what you are? You are a manuscript oƒ a divine letter. You are a mirror reflecting a noble face. This universe is not outside of you. Look inside yourself; everything that you want, you are already that.”
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“Start a huge, foolish project, like Noah…it makes absolutely no difference what people think of you.”
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“When you go through a hard period, When everything seems to oppose you, … When you feel you cannot even bear one more minute, NEVER GIVE UP! Because it is the time and place that the course will divert!”
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“Sorrow prepares you for joy. It violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter. It shakes the yellow leaves from the bough of your heart, so that fresh, green leaves can grow in their place. It pulls up the rotten roots, so that new roots hidden beneath have room to grow. Whatever sorrow shakes from your heart, far better things will take their place.”
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“Dance, when you’re broken open. Dance, if you’ve torn the bandage off. Dance in the middle of the fighting. Dance in your blood. Dance when you’re perfectly free.”
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“Ignorance is God’s prison. Knowing is God’s palace.”
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“You wander from room to room Hunting for the diamond necklace That is already around your neck!”
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“If you knew yourself for even one moment, if you could just glimpse your most beautiful face, maybe you wouldn’t slumber so deeply in that house of clay. Why not move into your house of joy and shine into every crevice! For you are the secret Treasure-bearer, and always have been. Didn’t you know?”
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“Everything in the universe is within you. Ask all from yourself.”
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“Why are you so enchanted by this world, when a mine of gold lies within you?”
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“You go from village to village on your horse asking everyone, “Has anyone seen my horse?”
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“Don’t knock on any random door like a beggar. Reach your long hand out to another door, beyond where you go on the street, the street where everyone says, “How are you?” and no one says How aren’t you?”
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“There is a fountain inside you. Don’t walk around with an empty bucket.”
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“Knock, And He’ll open the door Vanish, And He’ll make you shine like the sun Fall, And He’ll raise you to the heavens Become nothing, And He’ll turn you into everything.”
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“Forget safety. Live where you fear to live. Destroy your reputation. Be notorious.”
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“Don’t be satisfied with stories, how things have gone with others. Unfold your own myth.”
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“Set your life on fire. Seek those who fan your flames.”
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“Be melting snow. Wash yourself of yourself.”
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“Everyone has been made for some particular work, and the desire for that work has been put in every heart.”
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“Be a lamp, or a lifeboat, or a ladder. Help someone’s soul heal. Walk out of your house like a shepherd.”
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“As you start to walk out on the way, the way appears.”
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“Half-heartedness doesn’t reach into majesty. You set out to find God, but then you keep stopping for long periods at mean-spirited roadhouses.”
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“When you do things from your soul you feel a river moving in you, a joy. When action come from another section, the feeling disappears.”
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“Wherever you are, and whatever you do, be in love.”
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“Do not grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form.”
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“What hurts you, blesses you. Darkness is your candle.”
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“Where there is ruin, there is hope for a treasure.”
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“Don’t turn away. Keep your gaze on the bandaged place. That’s where the light enters you.”
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“Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life’s search for love and wisdom.”
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“You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens.”
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“Let the beauty we love be what we do.”
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“Let yourself be silently drawn by the stronger pull of what you really love.”
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“Be occupied, then, with what you really value and let the thief take something else.”
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“Reason is powerless in the expression of Love.”
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“Put your thoughts to sleep, do not let them cast a shadow over the moon of your heart. Let go of thinking.”
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“Only from the heart can you touch the sky.”
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“There is a candle in your heart, ready to be kindled. There is a void in your soul, ready to be filled. You feel it, don’t you?”
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“Be empty of worrying. Think of who created thought! Why do you stay in prison When the door is so wide open?”
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“Gamble everything for love, if you’re a true human being. If not, leave this gathering.”
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“Let the lover be disgraceful, crazy, absentminded. Someone sober will worry about events going badly. Let the lover be.”
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“Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.”
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“If you are irritated by every rub, how will you be polished?”
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“When someone beats a rug, the blows are not against the rug, but against the dust in it.”
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“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”
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“We are born of love; Love is our mother. “
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“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
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“Through Love all that is bitter will be sweet, Through Love all that is copper will be gold, Through Love all dregs will become wine, through Love all pain will turn to medicine.”
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“I have no companion but Love, no beginning, no end, no dawn. The Soul calls from within me: ‘You, ignorant of the way of Love, set Me free.’ “
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“That which is false troubles the heart, but truth brings joyous tranquillity.”
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“All day I think about it, then at night I say it. Where did I come from, and what am I supposed to be doing? I have no idea. My soul is from elsewhere, I’m sure of that, and I intend to end up there.”
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“When I die, I shall soar with angels, and when I die to the angels, what I shall become you cannot imagine.”
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“All religions, all this singing, one song. The differences are just illusion and vanity. The sun’s light looks a little different on this wall than it does on that wall, and a lot different on this other one, but it’s still one light.”
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“What shall I say, O Muslims, I know not myself, I am neither a Christian, nor a Jew, nor a Zoroastrian, nor a Muslim.”
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“I am neither of the East nor of the West, no boundaries exist within my breast.”
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“You know the value of every article of merchandise, but if you don’t know the value of your own soul, it’s all foolishness.”
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“Take someone who doesn’t keep score, who’s not looking to be richer, or afraid of losing, who has not the slightest interest even in his own personality: he’s free.”
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“Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes. Because for those who love with heart and soul there is no such thing as separation.”
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“Raise your words, not voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.”
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“Silence is the language of God, all else is poor translation.”
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“Words are a pretext. It is the inner bond that draws one person to another, not words.”
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“In Silence there is eloquence. Stop weaving and see how the pattern improves.”
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“You think you are alive because you breathe air? Shame on you, that you are alive in such a limited way. Don’t be without Love, so you won’t feel dead. Die in Love and stay alive forever.”
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